There is a common misconception that many women believe. Today, I’m going to debunk this misconception and give you a different way to approach the situation.
Society thinks that if you want to change something in your life then you have to be upset, frustrated, or annoyed with yourself in order for you to be motivated to make the change. However, the opposite is true.
Let me explain. Let’s say that I have a counter in my kitchen that I want to declutter and it’s been needing my attention for three weeks. The natural tendency is to say to myself, “seriously? You can’t even keep the kitchen tidy? This is kind of pathetic that you’ve let this pile stay here for so long. I mean, it’s not really that hard to put a few papers away.” But when I talk to myself this way I feel discouraged. And when I feel discouraged I want to eat a treat, jump on social media or turn on Netflix. All of which are not going to get me to clean the counter....
Dear mama of expecting multiples,
You are so lucky. Being pregnant with multiples is a magical time in your motherhood. I vividly remember four hands and four feet being pressed out of my belly at the same time. Oh, to experience that again would be an absolute joy, even though my pregnancy was no walk in the park.
I want to give you the advice that I wish that I would have received when I first found out that I was pregnant with twins. I hope that you can take this advice and create the motherhood that you have always dreamed of creating. It doesn’t have to be like all of the blog posts that you’ve been reading.
You’ve got a lot on your mind as you grow these babies. My advice to you is to be very intentional about how you want to experience this time. Yes, the physical aspects of being pregnant are challenging, but we compound those physical challenges with unnecessary and unuseful mental chatter. Be kind and compassionate to yourself.
It wasn’t long ago when I would look to other people to find things that I liked about myself. And this is completely understandable that we do this. As children we feed off of praise and rewards to help us have the courage to keep going, keep trying, keep growing in our childhood. In kindergarten we get stickers when we turn in homework. In 4th grade we get a movie pass when we reach our reading goal. In junior high we get to pick our favorite restaurant to go have dinner at when we bring home straight A’s. In high school we get a car when we perform well in school and with extracurricular activities. So it’s understandable how we have been programmed to look outside of ourselves for evidence that we can like ourselves.
But then motherhood comes along and for years we spend the majority of our time with little people whose job is not to validate us but to instead eat when they want, sleep when they want, cry when they are uncomfortable. From childhood external...
Today I'm going to write about why self-care is vital in motherhood. I wholeheartedly believe this to be true. The reason why is because in my own motherhood I have had both. Life without self-care and life with self-care. To say that there is a distinct contrast is an understatement. So I'm going to do my best to put into words that contrast in hopes of motivating you to do some self-care.
The first thing that self-care has done for me in my motherhood, it gave me the understanding that I am a good mom regardless of my children's behavior. This has happened because self-care has given me the space to allow myself to get to know me. To understand my needs, my wants, my desires, and the courage to fulfill them for myself. I have been able to think intentionally about my role as a mom. Which has allowed me to come to the understanding that I am doing the best that I can. That my children are supposed to have me as their mother and have experiences, positive and negative, to help them...
Motherhood is hard, but just surviving is optional. These 3 simple things will make motherhood with multiples way easier on yourself. We don't become mothers so that we can feel overwhelmed, stressed, and inadequate all of the time. Implement these 3 simple things and you will feel confident in your motherhood. You can lay your head down each night, feeling successful. Let me make motherhood easier on you, mama, so that you can THRIVE.