Honestly, it breaks my heart to know that one of the most magical, inspiring, and fulfilling times in our life is being survived through. It is normal for women to help other women survive motherhood. Now, I want to be clear. If you feel like you are surviving, I have been there too, THAT’S OK. Please hear me say that there is nothing wrong with you. You are doing motherhood in the best way that you know how, at this moment. And when you know a different way, you’ll do your motherhood differently, which is why I do what I do. My purpose in coaching is to give moms of multiples the tools, training, and tutoring that they need to thrive in their motherhood.
Here’s the truth, though, I am selfish because y’all, it’s the best job on the planet! To see a mom go from surviving to thriving, it’s incredible. But let’s dive into it so that you can understand how to possibly thrive in motherhood because right now, it doesn’t seem likely.
To the MoM who feels like she is drowning in motherhood. I see you. I know what it’s like. It wasn’t long ago that I felt the same way with thoughts of “am I doing good enough as a mom?” And, “I must be doing this wrong because other people make it look so easy.” And, “This is way harder than I thought it would be.”
This doesn’t have to be your reality. Want to stop downing? I have the life persevere and I’ve thrown it to you, it’s my online course, Intentional MoM Roadmap. With this course, I will pull you back into the boat and give you the relief that you deserve and that your children need you to have.
This is the work that I do. I give MoMs the resources that they need to stop drowning in their motherhood and put back in complete control of their motherhood journey. Just surviving isn’t an enjoyable way to live but in motherhood, it has become the norm. Not only is it not enjoyable but by living...
As I have worked with moms of multiples to conquer the many challenges presented to them in their lives, there has been one underlying theme to every challenge. All us moms want to feel in control.
My work is dedicated to showing you how to control every situation that comes at you in life. Common situations could include another failed round of IFV, an emergency C-section, or two crying babies with no help around. Or possibly, two rambunctious toddlers who are not listening, your over helpful mother-in-law (or unhelpful, I’ve seen both), or a husband that isn’t as helpful around the house as you would like for him to be. All of these, and anything else that you can think of, often leave us feeling out of control, but I’m here to guide you to have the ability to be in control during all of these situations.
But to be in control, you have first to ask yourself why you want to be in control of these things. What would you get to feel if it worked out the...
If there is one thing about motherhood that I believe down to my core it is that you are the perfect woman for the job. Your kids, your partner, and even yourself need you! Not me, not your sister, not your BFF, not your neighbor, and not the mom on IG that you love to follow. YOU mama, the world needs you.
Because here’s the deal, if we were all the same this life would be boring. We all have differences; likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses, skills and preferences to bring variety, creativity, and perspectives into the world so that the human species could evolve.
But being authentically you can be challenging so I want to help you lean into you doing you in your motherhood. So, I’ve got some tips for you.
Tip #1- Stop looking at what other moms are doing in their motherhood as the guidepost for your motherhood. During this time of quarantine, some moms are waking up early, getting in their at-home workout, and are showered and ready before the kids wake up....
I believe that you are supposed to be your children’s mother. Not me, the life coach with wise words or your best friend who always seems to have it together or the IG influencer that takes the cutest pictures of her kids. You. You are the best one for your children to learn about life and share their experiences with them.
But why is it so challenging to believe that sometimes?
All too often we look at our motherhood from the lense of what went wrong. What went wrong today, what did the kids do wrong, what did my husband do wrong, what did I do wrong? And then we take all of the “wrong” things and attach meaning to those circumstances and use it against ourselves. We make those “wrong” things mean some terrible things about ourselves as mothers. Like, if those things didn’t happen then you would be the best mom. NO. Those things are just part of life. It means that you are living your human experience by choosing to be a mother. That’s it....
We’ve all heard them. The non-stop comments that come with having multiples. Everything from “poor boy has to be raised by all girls,” to the triplet mom. And “do twins run in the family?” “Were they natural?” “Two for the price of one.”
I’m going to piggy-back off of last week’s blog post where I talked about relationships. What they consist of and how it’s completely in your control to feel how you want about any person.
But what about the person that is in the elevator at work that says “wow, you’re having twins? You don’t look big enough to be having twins,” as you are 20 weeks along and not feeling small in the slightest. Or the person who says, “I know that it’s hard but do everything that you can to breastfeed. It’s what’s best for your baby,” as you are dealing with thrush and you and your preemies are struggling to nurse with each passing...
Motherhood is hard, but just surviving is optional. These 3 simple things will make motherhood with multiples way easier on yourself. We don't become mothers so that we can feel overwhelmed, stressed, and inadequate all of the time. Implement these 3 simple things and you will feel confident in your motherhood. You can lay your head down each night, feeling successful. Let me make motherhood easier on you, mama, so that you can THRIVE.