You know how much you are doing as a new mom of twins and I know how much you are doing. That’s why I hear you saying, “really Andra? Self-care too?” My answer to this is yes, but I’ve got you. This is self-care simplified, MoM infant style.
I’m going to spare you the explanation as to why you really do need to be doing some form of self-care each day. I’ve got tons of blog posts on the topic so if you are interested just look to the sidebar on this page, scroll until you find the “categories” section and go to the “self-care” link and it will give you all of the blog posts that I have written on the topic. Click here to go to one of my favorites if you want an empowering way to think about self-care.
But for the purposes of this post, I’m just going to jump right in and give you 3 things that you can do as self-care that don’t take up any extra time out of your day.
1- Give yourself a wink. You read that...
Why did you become a mother? Don’t brush over this question. It’s so important for us moms to remember. All too often we forget once our babies are here. We get consumed by the daily tasks of taking care of those babies and over time we lose a sense of why we are doing what we are doing each day.
As we remember why we became a mom it will allow us to decrease the incessant feelings of overwhelm, frustration, and unappreciation that seems to fill our motherhoods.
What is your purpose as a mother? Everyone gets to define that for themselves but I find that as I distill it down to two basic things then it helps me be the type of mom that I want to be for my kids.
The first purpose for me as a mother is love. I wanted to bring children into this world so that my life could be expanded in my capacity to love and to be loved. Bringing this to my remembrance when my babies were up all night crying and I was exhausted, or when my toddlers would hit each other, or when my...
For me, being quarantined seems to have heightened all of my emotions. In particular, I am feeling more intense stress, anxiety, and overwhelm. Some days I have felt downright defeated. However, I have noticed that on those days of defeat it’s been different. As I have become aware of what is, and isn’t happening on those days, I have been able to pinpoint it to a single activity that hasn’t been happening. My self-care.
Self-care will give you the mental and emotional boost that you need right now. It fills you up so that you can keep going. Our brains are having to work double-time to navigate this new normal. We need to be giving it the space that it needs to rejuvenate.
I have put together a resource that is packed with all of the tips and ideas that you need to give yourself the self-care that you deserve. Click here to get your hands on it, this guide is going to give you the boost that you need to get you going. Doing self-care. Meaningful self-care.
Is self-care severing you in your motherhood? Do you know if your mindset around self-care serving you? Let’s do a little activity to help you see where you are at in your self-care mindset.
Honestly answer these questions as it applies to your motherhood and how you do self-care.
If you answered yes to the first three questions and no to the last one then I’d like to invite you to develop your mindset around self-care so that it will be a benefit in your motherhood instead of a nagging nuisance or something that you are feeling guilty about.
We are going to dive deep into these questions and many more at my MoMs Guide to Self-Care in Motherhood Workshop that is on this Thursday at 1 pm MST. If...
This month I have been focusing on helping you understand self-care. What it is, how it impacts your motherhood and how to make it into a practice that you don’t put on the back burner. I hope that you take these last few blog posts and all of the Instagram posts, and apply them into your life. (If you need guidance I’m teaching a workshop next week, click here to join, that will give you everything that you need to make self-care a top priority in your motherhood) But why? Why do we do self-care?
This is a question that each one of us individually needs to answer for ourselves. But I’d like to share the number one reason why I do self-care. I do self-care to grow and develop the relationship that I have with myself. As I developed that relationship, I increase the love the I have for myself. As a result, the love that I have for myself allows me to not delegate that responsibility onto others and I get to just love them as they are. Self-care creates space...
As MoMs, we show up. It's what we do. It's who we are.
We show up for routine doctor visits, non-stress tests, and weight checks.
We show up for nighttime feedings, diaper blowouts, and non-stop outfit changes.
We show up for food getting spit back out, sticky hands, daily baths.
We show up for Tupperware getting strewn about the kitchen, letter magnets on the floor, and every toy out of the bin.
We show up for park outings, playdates (playdates where the littles don't play together just beside each other), and trips to the zoo.
We show up for our husband, friends, and family members.
But frequently, we aren't showing up for ourselves. Today, I want to help you take back your power of the commitments that you make to yourself. Life doesn't just get in the way, we let that happen, and we need to take back the control.
When you plan to pause the hustle and bustle while your kiddos are taking a nap a read a book, but the sink is full of dishes and laundry still needs to be folded, you...
Today I'm going to write about why self-care is vital in motherhood. I wholeheartedly believe this to be true. The reason why is because in my own motherhood I have had both. Life without self-care and life with self-care. To say that there is a distinct contrast is an understatement. So I'm going to do my best to put into words that contrast in hopes of motivating you to do some self-care.
The first thing that self-care has done for me in my motherhood, it gave me the understanding that I am a good mom regardless of my children's behavior. This has happened because self-care has given me the space to allow myself to get to know me. To understand my needs, my wants, my desires, and the courage to fulfill them for myself. I have been able to think intentionally about my role as a mom. Which has allowed me to come to the understanding that I am doing the best that I can. That my children are supposed to have me as their mother and have experiences, positive and negative, to help them...
I’ve never thought about my actions today as being a gift to my future self, but doing so has created an enormous shift in how I choose to spend my time and what goals I choose to set.
Think about your life and the gifts that your past self has given to you.
The exercise that you have done is a gift that your present self is enjoying now.
The books that you have read to increase your intellect.
The healthy food that you have eaten for your body to perform effectively.
The meditation that you have practiced.
The journaling that cramped your hand every morning.
The emotions that you have positively processed.
The pregnancy that you went through.
The IFV that you conquered.
The sleep training that you worked hard on.
The potty training phase that you navigated with patience.
The diligently practicing of letters with your toddlers.
The hours of reading with your kindergartners on your lap.
These are all gifts from your past self that you are now reaping the rewards.
So my question...
The holidays are full of magic. The anticipation of the beloved Christmas morning, with thoughtful gifts under the beautifully decorated tree. The sight of houses and trees lit up with lights throughout the community. Holiday music with messages of joy, peace, and excitement fills our homes. I could go on and on with examples of holiday magic. But you are experiencing all of them now, so why am I am relaying this?
Because I want to bring to your awareness that none of those things just happen. You have to be the one that gets the lights up on the house. You have to be the one that decorates the Christmas tree and hangs the stockings. You have to be the one that turns on David Archuleta’s holiday Pandora channel. Think of the other 11 months of the year. They are not nearly as magical, but they could be. Take some time over the next week to ask yourself how you can make the other 11 months just as magical as December. Now, I’m not talking about planning decorations to put...
As moms, we can be physically in the room with our children but not mentally and emotionally “in the room” at the same time. Next week is Christmas, and I don’t want you to miss out on that precious time with your kiddos, so today, I am going to discuss three emotions that, when not understood, block us from being present in our life.
The first emotion is feeling valued as a mother. So many of us, I too am recovering from this, think that we have increased value when we are accomplishing tasks. Think of what Christmas morning typically includes; picking up the wrapping paper after the family has torn into the gifts that were under the tree, a hot breakfast on the table, quickly getting the dishes cleaned, and making the final preparations to visit family members for the rest of the day. All the while, your family is sitting on the family room floor, playing with their Christmas gifts, and enjoying the morning together.
Now, I’m not suggesting that doing those...
Motherhood is hard, but just surviving is optional. These 3 simple things will make motherhood with multiples way easier on yourself. We don't become mothers so that we can feel overwhelmed, stressed, and inadequate all of the time. Implement these 3 simple things and you will feel confident in your motherhood. You can lay your head down each night, feeling successful. Let me make motherhood easier on you, mama, so that you can THRIVE.