Letter to a mother expecting multiples

mindset pregnancy self-love Sep 02, 2020

Dear mama of expecting multiples,

You are so lucky. Being pregnant with multiples is a magical time in your motherhood. I vividly remember four hands and four feet being pressed out of my belly at the same time. Oh, to experience that again would be an absolute joy, even though my pregnancy was no walk in the park. 

I want to give you the advice that I wish that I would have received when I first found out that I was pregnant with twins. I hope that you can take this advice and create the motherhood that you have always dreamed of creating. It doesn’t have to be like all of the blog posts that you’ve been reading.

You’ve got a lot on your mind as you grow these babies. My advice to you is to be very intentional about how you want to experience this time. Yes, the physical aspects of being pregnant are challenging, but we compound those physical challenges with unnecessary and unuseful mental chatter. Be kind and compassionate to yourself. 

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How to mentally prepare for multiples

I was recently asked how I responded when I was in the doctor’s office, and I was informed that I was carrying twins. To be completely honest. I cried. Uncontrollably. Tears of joy, overwhelm, gratitude, and uncertainty. And if you are reading this blog post, you might be able to relate. 

Today, I’m going to talk about what I wish someone, anyone, would have taught me while I was pregnant with my multiples. Everyone talks about how to prepare physically for twins.  What foods to eat, how to exercise, and to get as much sleep as possible now because you won’t get much once your babies are here. They talk about the baby gear and supplies to buy, what to buy two of, what are the must-haves versus the nice-to-haves, and what to take with you to the hospital. We talk a lot about how to physically care for the babies through breastfeeding and infant sleep classes. 

But a HUGE piece of what we are missing when we are preparing for our babies to arrive is...

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Infant readiness checklist

Congratulations mama! You’re pregnant with multiples! Let me start by saying that being a mom of multiples is the best, and if you follow this checklist, you will be sure to make it an unforgettable experience. (Which is perfect because one of the top complaints from MoMs is that the first two years are a blur.) 

I’m going to get right down to what you need to get ready for twins; however, my list is going to be VERY different than other MoMs advice. What I am going to help you get prepared for, the perfect diaper bag won’t create for you, what to pack and not to pack for the hospital won’t create for you, and how many cribs to purchase won’t create for you. 

Because what you want is to fully enjoy those babies instead of being overwhelmed and stressed. What you want is to take care of their needs without being overly exhausted so that you can relish in the little moments as they grow. What you want is to feel like you are a good mom, that you...

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Infant readiness checklist

Congratulations mama! You’re pregnant with multiples! Let me start off by saying that being a mom of multiples is the best and if you follow this checklist you will be sure to make it an unforgettable experience. (Which is perfect because one of the top complaints from MoMs is that the first 2 years are a blur.) 

I’m going to get right down to what you need to get ready for twins, however, my list is going to be VERY different than other MoMs advice. What I am going to help you get ready for, the perfect diaper bag won’t create for you, what to pack and not to pack for the hospital won’t create for you, and how many cribs to purchase won’t create for you. 

Because what you want is to fully enjoy those babies instead of being overwhelmed and stressed. What you want is to take care of their needs without being overly exhausted so that you can relish in the little moments as they grow. What you want is to feel like you are doing a good job as a...

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MoMs want to be in control

As I have worked with moms of multiples to conquer the many challenges presented to them in their lives, there has been one underlying theme to every challenge. All us moms want to feel in control. 

My work is dedicated to showing you how to control every situation that comes at you in life. Common situations could include another failed round of IFV, an emergency C-section, or two crying babies with no help around. Or possibly, two rambunctious toddlers who are not listening, your over helpful mother-in-law (or unhelpful, I’ve seen both), or a husband that isn’t as helpful around the house as you would like for him to be. All of these, and anything else that you can think of, often leave us feeling out of control, but I’m here to guide you to have the ability to be in control during all of these situations. 

But to be in control, you have first to ask yourself why you want to be in control of these things. What would you get to feel if it worked out the...

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My Twin Birth- Nothing Ordinary

motherhood pregnancy Jul 01, 2020

Today I am sharing with you what happened during my twin birth. This was written days after the experience, for my private blog, so there are a lot of details but it's a very interesting situation that my husband and I found ourselves in. Enjoy.

On Tuesday, October 13th, around 3:30 pm my water broke while I was visiting my parents. My father took me to the Intermountain Medical Center where I was to deliver these precious boys. I was admitted and it was determined that indeed my water had broken and that they were going to try to hold off on the delivery until we could get the lung steroids in my system for the boys. On the 15th at around 11 o'clock I was given an epidural in order to receive Plitocene for the labor process to begin. Riley's heart rate dropped after the epidural kicked in and Dr. Ponder didn't feel that he would handle a vaginal birth well, if at all, so we decided to do a C-Section. We wanted to wait until after 5:45 pm until the lung steroids could have their...

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My twin pregnancy

motherhood pregnancy Jun 19, 2020

Back in 2009, I started a personal blog to journal my motherhood journey with twins. This is the post that I wrote 9 days after my twins were born. I will tell you about the birth of my twins next week in a post called My twin pregnancy. Enjoy this blast from the past.

"This pregnancy has been a wild one. To recap, on March 23, 2009, I found out that I was pregnant! We found our OB/GYN, Dr. Ponder, aka Sam, on the IHC web site and just had a connection with her and felt that she would be the one to go on this journey with us. I am so grateful that she did, she was amazing and we couldn't have found a more qualified, caring, and spunky individual. On May 6th, when I was 10 weeks along, it was my first doctor's appointment with Sam. At that same visit, I found out that we were having TWINS! Steve was working and Sam advised me to wait until I could see his reaction in person, plus she said he won't be able to work after news like that. Steve was grateful for that advice and so was I,...

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How to deal with other peoples comments

We’ve all heard them. The non-stop comments that come with having multiples. Everything from “poor boy has to be raised by all girls,” to the triplet mom. And “do twins run in the family?” “Were they natural?” “Two for the price of one.”

I’m going to piggy-back off of last week’s blog post where I talked about relationships. What they consist of and how it’s completely in your control to feel how you want about any person.

But what about the person that is in the elevator at work that says “wow, you’re having twins? You don’t look big enough to be having twins,” as you are 20 weeks along and not feeling small in the slightest. Or the person who says, “I know that it’s hard but do everything that you can to breastfeed. It’s what’s best for your baby,” as you are dealing with thrush and you and your preemies are struggling to nurse with each passing...

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Successful MoMs do this

One of the keys to my success in being a mom is learning how to stay positive when life is happening. 

  • When my babies got the TTTS diagnosis.
  • When I developed Gestational Diabetes.
  • When you are beyond exhausted but babies need to be cared for.
  • When both babies are crying and nothing is working to get them calm.
  • When sickness would plague the house.
  • When the word thrush entered my vocabulary.
  • When I felt isolated as a stay at home mom.

This list can go on and on with examples of life swirling around me and I know that you have a long list as well. 

But think back to a situation that was really challenging. Something that you have now gone through and come out on the other side. What good did worrying, stressing, and being fearful do during that situation? Your brain wants to trick you into thinking that when you worry, stress and be fearful it helps you get through those hard times but those negative emotions actually block us from finding a solution. It’s not until...

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Motherhood thoughts

Our lives are filled with them but most of the time we can’t distinguish between the two. Today I’m going to teach you the difference between a thought and a circumstance and how to use this knowledge in your life. Every situation in life, every story that you tell, has thoughts and circumstances but understanding the difference between the two is the difference between creating your life and living at the effect of it. This is a very important concept to understand because many times we, as moms, feel like life is happening to us. The best news that I can give you is that you can get back into the driver’s seat. You can be in charge of your motherhood with multiples.

So, what’s a circumstance? Circumstances are things in our life that are the facts. They are neutral, meaning they aren’t good or bad, therefore they don’t have any drama attached to them. Many times we don’t have any control over circumstances but sometimes we do. 

Here...

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Let's make motherhood easier

Motherhood is hard, but just surviving is optional. These 3 simple things will make motherhood with multiples way easier on yourself. We don't become mothers so that we can feel overwhelmed, stressed, and inadequate all of the time. Implement these 3 simple things and you will feel confident in your motherhood. You can lay your head down each night, feeling successful. Let me make motherhood easier on you, mama, so that you can THRIVE.