Let’s Thrive

This is a bittersweet announcement that I’m about to make. This is going to be my last blog post. Don’t worry; I’m not going anywhere. I’m still going to share with you the same amount of inspiration, motivation, encouragement, and love of motherhood with multiples each week, just in a different way. I’ll fill you in on the details at the end of this post, so keep reading.

This blog has a wealth of information that, if you read through the posts, learn, and implement what I’ve taught you, it will make all the difference in your motherhood. There are tons of free resources scattered throughout the posts, so dive in, your motherhood will be so very grateful.

However, I wanted to leave the blog, sharing something that I am very passionate about. Something that I believe is possible at any stage of motherhood with multiples. Something that, until now, us MoMs haven’t been taught how to do it or why we should strive for it.

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Thriving in motherhood is possible

Honestly, it breaks my heart to know that one of the most magical, inspiring, and fulfilling times in our life is being survived through. It is normal for women to help other women survive motherhood. Now, I want to be clear. If you feel like you are surviving, I have been there too, THAT’S OK. Please hear me say that there is nothing wrong with you. You are doing motherhood in the best way that you know how, at this moment. And when you know a different way, you’ll do your motherhood differently, which is why I do what I do. My purpose in coaching is to give moms of multiples the tools, training, and tutoring that they need to thrive in their motherhood.

Here’s the truth, though, I am selfish because y’all, it’s the best job on the planet! To see a mom go from surviving to thriving, it’s incredible. But let’s dive into it so that you can understand how to possibly thrive in motherhood because right now, it doesn’t seem likely.

If you...

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How to mentally prepare for toddlers

If you are reading this post it is because you either have toddlers that you want some help understanding or you’re getting ready for the toddler phase and want to get as prepared as one can for the upcoming phase of life. Either way, what I am going to talk about is going to change how you view your toddlers and your role as their mother during this time of their life.

Society has labeled the two-year-old stage as terrible and the three-year-old stage as horrific. When we do this, we add a layer of intense emotion onto an already intense phase of life. Stop feeding into the lies that these are terrible and horrific stages of your toddler’s life. I promise that as you drop this line of thinking, it will automatically allow you to enjoy your toddlers a little bit more. 

I mentioned that this is an intense time in your toddler’s life. It’s a time full of learning boundaries, how to get needs met, and what to do when life doesn’t go how you wish. Up...

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Changing your NICU story

I want to start this post by saying that this can be a sensitive subject for many MoMs, and that’s precisely why I am going to speak my truth about it. This subject is close to my heart because I am a NICU mom, and I see so many NICU moms going through unnecessary suffering while their babies are being cared for in the NICU. So hear me out and then be intentional with your NICU story and what you want to continue telling yourself about your experience, or what you will choose to say to yourself if a NICU stay is in your future. I’ll let you know how to do this at the end of this post, so keep reading.

The way that you think of your NICU stay is how you are going to feel about NICU. This is NOT me saying that you just have to think positively about your kiddos being in the NICU, not at all. But I will caution you to be very intentional because many moms paint a horrible scene when it comes to their NICU stay.

For instance, I have been told by a mom that the NICU is like...

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When the days are loooonnng but the years are short

Loooonnnnng days but the years seem to fly by. Does that sum up your motherhood? Sometimes it just seems like you are spinning your wheels just doing the same old things over and over again and then you blink and the year is half over. I have found that this is especially true in motherhood. The challenge is it often leaves us feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, and sometimes resentful of how our days go. And when we look back on the years often times we are left regretting the time that we didn’t spend doing what matters most. I don’t think that this is what we signed up for in motherhood. It seems like a loose, loose situation, so I wanted to give you a couple of tips to make those days not seem so long. 

Tip #1- Remember that the present moment is what is really important. The truth is, the present moment is really all that we have. Sure we spend our time thinking about the past and the future but the here and now is how we actually live our lives. It’s what...

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Feeling out of control?

It is easy to go through motherhood, feeling out of control, that these little humans you are caring for are running your life. I hear you; this is how I spent the early stages of my motherhood too. All that changed when I learned the way that I chose to think about what was happening outside of me was how I was going to experience it inside of me. In other words, my mindset about the situations in my motherhood determined the emotions that I was going to feel. Stay with me; I’ll explain using examples.

I told you that the early stages of my motherhood I spent feeling out of control. When my babies would cry, and I didn’t know what their needs were or have another pair of hands to help me, my response was to feel overwhelmed. I would think thoughts like “this is so exhausting,” and “they are nonstop, I’m never going to catch a break.” What I didn’t know back then was those thoughts are what was causing me to feel overwhelmed. Not the...

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MoMs want to be in control

As I have worked with moms of multiples to conquer the many challenges presented to them in their lives, there has been one underlying theme to every challenge. All us moms want to feel in control. 

My work is dedicated to showing you how to control every situation that comes at you in life. Common situations could include another failed round of IFV, an emergency C-section, or two crying babies with no help around. Or possibly, two rambunctious toddlers who are not listening, your over helpful mother-in-law (or unhelpful, I’ve seen both), or a husband that isn’t as helpful around the house as you would like for him to be. All of these, and anything else that you can think of, often leave us feeling out of control, but I’m here to guide you to have the ability to be in control during all of these situations. 

But to be in control, you have first to ask yourself why you want to be in control of these things. What would you get to feel if it worked out the...

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Joyfully experience motherhood with multiples

Are you feeling lost in your motherhood? Or maybe unappreciated? What about overwhelmed, stressed, or resentful? These, and many other emotions, are very common in motherhood, and it is OK if you feel them. Let me say that again; it is OK if you are feeling them. There is nothing wrong with you if you experience negative emotions in motherhood. 

With that said, I want to share what I believe to be the most significant contributing factor to these emotions. This is something that Eckhart Tolle recently helped me understand in his book A New Earth. As I have applied it to my motherhood, it has allowed me to release these emotions from my life. And therefore, I enjoy my motherhood more fully and am much more present.

So let's dig in, this is a bit of a deeper concept, so if you are new to my work, this might be challenging to understand. Read it over, take what you can, apply it to your motherhood, and then come back in 6 months and do it again. I'm telling you that it is...

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What comparing your multiples does to your motherhood

Theodore Roosevelt is right, “comparison is the thief of joy.” However, been there, done that with my twins. You are not alone if you have compared your multiples. But I’m always saying that, just because you aren’t alone, it doesn’t mean that you have to stay in a position you don’t like. So, let’s dive into why our brain thinks comparing is so useful, when it might be helpful to and when it isn’t, and tips to stop doing it.

Now, you can apply this too may aspects of your motherhood, and I highly recommend it; however, for this blog, I’m going to focus on the comparisons that we make between our multiples.

The brain is always scanning our lives for things that could be harmful. It’s trying to prevent us from future pain that could happen. So comparing is an easy thing for it to do. If our minds can point out discrepancies in our children, then we can get to work solving for those discrepancies. But what happens is we...

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How to love multiple babies

There is so much to unpack with this topic from financially funding multiple babies to logistically taking care of their needs. But today I’m going to talk about one of the most painful challenges that as a MoM, you will face as you raise those babies. 

Whether it’s on social media or with my clients, moms want to understand more fully, “how can I love two babies equally?” There is so much worry and guilt internally going on during a pregnancy, and as you raise those babies, that involves multiples because it’s hard to comprehend how to love more than one baby and how to love them equally.

So today I’m going to give you the best news ever! This news will help you understand where love comes from and how it increases so that you don’t have to worry or feel guilty about the love towards your babies.

Society thinks that love comes from the time that we spend with individuals, the things that we do for people, or what they do for us, and...

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Let's make motherhood easier

Motherhood is hard, but just surviving is optional. These 3 simple things will make motherhood with multiples way easier on yourself. We don't become mothers so that we can feel overwhelmed, stressed, and inadequate all of the time. Implement these 3 simple things and you will feel confident in your motherhood. You can lay your head down each night, feeling successful. Let me make motherhood easier on you, mama, so that you can THRIVE.