If you are reading this post it is because you either have toddlers that you want some help understanding or you’re getting ready for the toddler phase and want to get as prepared as one can for the upcoming phase of life. Either way, what I am going to talk about is going to change how you view your toddlers and your role as their mother during this time of their life.
Society has labeled the two-year-old stage as terrible and the three-year-old stage as horrific. When we do this, we add a layer of intense emotion onto an already intense phase of life. Stop feeding into the lies that these are terrible and horrific stages of your toddler’s life. I promise that as you drop this line of thinking, it will automatically allow you to enjoy your toddlers a little bit more.
I mentioned that this is an intense time in your toddler’s life. It’s a time full of learning boundaries, how to get needs met, and what to do when life doesn’t go how you wish. Up...
To the MoM who feels like she is drowning in motherhood. I see you. I know what it’s like. It wasn’t long ago that I felt the same way with thoughts of “am I doing good enough as a mom?” And, “I must be doing this wrong because other people make it look so easy.” And, “This is way harder than I thought it would be.”
This doesn’t have to be your reality. Want to stop downing? I have the life persevere and I’ve thrown it to you, it’s my online course, Intentional MoM Roadmap. With this course, I will pull you back into the boat and give you the relief that you deserve and that your children need you to have.
This is the work that I do. I give MoMs the resources that they need to stop drowning in their motherhood and put back in complete control of their motherhood journey. Just surviving isn’t an enjoyable way to live but in motherhood, it has become the norm. Not only is it not enjoyable but by living...
It is easy to look back throughout your day and focus on all of the things that went wrong. This is a very natural, human thing to do. But I want to let you know that those wrong moments were just right for you in your motherhood. Let me say that again. Those wrong moments were just right for you in your motherhood. You are doing motherhood exactly as you should be. You are doing motherhood right. Right for you, right for your children, right for everyone in your life. Nothing has gone wrong. You are LIVING life. Life comes with ups and downs.
Is motherhood challenging? Yes? That’s ok.
Is motherhood exhausting? Yes? That’s ok.
Is motherhood lonely? Yes? That’s ok.
Is motherhood unfulfilling? Yes? That’s ok.
Is motherhood overwhelming? Yes? That’s ok.
Saying yes to any of these things doesn’t make you less of an amazing mom. None of them means that you don’t love your children enough or that you are messing up their childhood. They are just...
As moms, we can be physically in the room with our children but not mentally and emotionally “in the room” at the same time. Next week is Christmas, and I don’t want you to miss out on that precious time with your kiddos, so today, I am going to discuss three emotions that, when not understood, block us from being present in our life.
The first emotion is feeling valued as a mother. So many of us, I too am recovering from this, think that we have increased value when we are accomplishing tasks. Think of what Christmas morning typically includes; picking up the wrapping paper after the family has torn into the gifts that were under the tree, a hot breakfast on the table, quickly getting the dishes cleaned, and making the final preparations to visit family members for the rest of the day. All the while, your family is sitting on the family room floor, playing with their Christmas gifts, and enjoying the morning together.
Now, I’m not suggesting that doing those...
We all have been told that we should feel grateful in our life. That we should express gratitude for that which we have. But did you know that you are a worthy and whole human being if you don’t feel grateful this Thanksgiving season? So, why feel grateful? Why put forth the effort to express gratitude for what you have, out loud or to yourself?
Before I answer that directly, I want to explain the difference between grateful and gratitude. Grateful is an emotion. As I have taught you in a previous blog post entitled “Feeling Emotions”, emotions are created by your brain after thinking thoughts. So, no one can cause you to feel any emotion in your life. You are the creator of them. So you think a thought like, “I am so blessed” and that causes the emotion of grateful to vibrate down into your body.
Now you can express gratitude, which are the words that we say to ourselves or to others which will cause us to feel grateful for that which we have...
Our lives are filled with them but most of the time we can’t distinguish between the two. Today I’m going to teach you the difference between a thought and a circumstance and how to use this knowledge in your life. Every situation in life, every story that you tell, has thoughts and circumstances but understanding the difference between the two is the difference between creating your life and living at the effect of it. This is a very important concept to understand because many times we, as moms, feel like life is happening to us. The best news that I can give you is that you can get back into the driver’s seat. You can be in charge of your motherhood with multiples.
So, what’s a circumstance? Circumstances are things in our life that are the facts. They are neutral, meaning they aren’t good or bad, therefore they don’t have any drama attached to them. Many times we don’t have any control over circumstances but sometimes we do.
“Mom guilt” is something that many moms experience, so if you do too, you’re not alone. Today, I’m going to give you everything that you need to know about “mom guilt” so that you can experience it in a way that serves you and your family instead of having it compound into shame, regret, and isolation.
What is “mom guilt”? It is a phrase that mothers have coined as a way to communicate that they are feeling guilty in their motherhood.
As I have taught you in past blog posts, all of our emotions come from the thoughts that we think. When we’re experiencing guilt, it’s because we are thinking sentences in our brain that send the guilt emotion into our body.
Intellectually, you might be starting to wrap your mind around the concept. Let’s dive a little deeper as to why we think those types of thoughts that are causing us to feel guilt. I’ve come up with several reasons.
1. You don’t go all-in on the...
As mothers, we want our children to be happy, our husbands to feel loved, and our friends to feel included. On the surface, these seem like noble and worthy goals that we strive to go out into the world and make it happen. However, the problem is that nothing you do can force a child happy, make husbands feel loved and allow friends to feel included.
Here me out. Our thoughts create our feelings. Therefore, the people around us are in charge of the emotions that they are feeling. We can’t make them feel anything. They have to choose it with the thoughts that they choose to think or the ones that come to them on default.
Yes, we can do things that make it easier for them to think happy, loving and including thoughts but we can do something and they can choose to think of it in a different way than we’d anticipated and they’d get a different emotion in return.
Here’s a personal example to help illustrate what I mean. When my husband and I were first married, we...
As a mom we hate to see our children struggle. It’s so painful to watch them go through a sickness or have a medical diagnosis. It’s not fun watching them not enjoy school because they are having a hard time making friends. It’s so sad listening to a newborn cry after you’ve tried everything to sooth him/her.
All of these, and many more, situations in life cause a large amount of negative emotion for us. Which is why we don’t like it when they happen. In another blog post, I’ll teach you what to do with that negative emotion that will be way more useful to you in your life but that’s not the direction that I want to take this post.
Let’s look to nature for some help in loosening up our grip on our belief that children shouldn’t struggle.
Baby chickens. We all know that if you help a baby chick out of it’s egg that it will die. That baby chick has to put forth the effort necessary to get itself out of that egg...
This is the most commonly asked question within the twin mom community so I thought that I’d give you some much needed perspective.
I myself, would ask this to every twin mom that would come my way and everyone of them would say “oh yes, hang in there.” At every milestone we hit I would ask this same question and I’d get the same response, “yes, mama, you’re doing great, hang in there.”
My twins are nine. Through coaching, I now know where the hard comes from and how to solve it. So, I’m going to give you the knowledge that I wished I had almost 10 years ago. This is the same knowledge that I use now in my own motherhood with nine-year-olds and a six-year-old to create the life that I want to have with them.
As a new mom of twins I didn’t embrace my reality. So the hard came in me trying to solve for and manipulate things that were outside of my control.
I was fearful when trying to get babies to stop crying because...
Motherhood is hard, but just surviving is optional. These 3 simple things will make motherhood with multiples way easier on yourself. We don't become mothers so that we can feel overwhelmed, stressed, and inadequate all of the time. Implement these 3 simple things and you will feel confident in your motherhood. You can lay your head down each night, feeling successful. Let me make motherhood easier on you, mama, so that you can THRIVE.