I want to start this post by saying that this can be a sensitive subject for many MoMs, and that’s precisely why I am going to speak my truth about it. This subject is close to my heart because I am a NICU mom, and I see so many NICU moms going through unnecessary suffering while their babies are being cared for in the NICU. So hear me out and then be intentional with your NICU story and what you want to continue telling yourself about your experience, or what you will choose to say to yourself if a NICU stay is in your future. I’ll let you know how to do this at the end of this post, so keep reading.
The way that you think of your NICU stay is how you are going to feel about NICU. This is NOT me saying that you just have to think positively about your kiddos being in the NICU, not at all. But I will caution you to be very intentional because many moms paint a horrible scene when it comes to their NICU stay.
For instance, I have been told by a mom that the NICU is like...
You know how much you are doing as a new mom of twins and I know how much you are doing. That’s why I hear you saying, “really Andra? Self-care too?” My answer to this is yes, but I’ve got you. This is self-care simplified, MoM infant style.
I’m going to spare you the explanation as to why you really do need to be doing some form of self-care each day. I’ve got tons of blog posts on the topic so if you are interested just look to the sidebar on this page, scroll until you find the “categories” section and go to the “self-care” link and it will give you all of the blog posts that I have written on the topic. Click here to go to one of my favorites if you want an empowering way to think about self-care.
But for the purposes of this post, I’m just going to jump right in and give you 3 things that you can do as self-care that don’t take up any extra time out of your day.
1- Give yourself a wink. You read that...
Congratulations mama! You’re pregnant with multiples! Let me start off by saying that being a mom of multiples is the best and if you follow this checklist you will be sure to make it an unforgettable experience. (Which is perfect because one of the top complaints from MoMs is that the first 2 years are a blur.)
I’m going to get right down to what you need to get ready for twins, however, my list is going to be VERY different than other MoMs advice. What I am going to help you get ready for, the perfect diaper bag won’t create for you, what to pack and not to pack for the hospital won’t create for you, and how many cribs to purchase won’t create for you.
Because what you want is to fully enjoy those babies instead of being overwhelmed and stressed. What you want is to take care of their needs without being overly exhausted so that you can relish in the little moments as they grow. What you want is to feel like you are doing a good job as a...
Congratulations mama! You’re pregnant with multiples! Let me start by saying that being a mom of multiples is the best, and if you follow this checklist, you will be sure to make it an unforgettable experience. (Which is perfect because one of the top complaints from MoMs is that the first two years are a blur.)
I’m going to get right down to what you need to get ready for twins; however, my list is going to be VERY different than other MoMs advice. What I am going to help you get prepared for, the perfect diaper bag won’t create for you, what to pack and not to pack for the hospital won’t create for you, and how many cribs to purchase won’t create for you.
Because what you want is to fully enjoy those babies instead of being overwhelmed and stressed. What you want is to take care of their needs without being overly exhausted so that you can relish in the little moments as they grow. What you want is to feel like you are a good mom, that you...
To the MoM who feels like she is drowning in motherhood. I see you. I know what it’s like. It wasn’t long ago that I felt the same way with thoughts of “am I doing good enough as a mom?” And, “I must be doing this wrong because other people make it look so easy.” And, “This is way harder than I thought it would be.”
This doesn’t have to be your reality. Want to stop downing? I have the life persevere and I’ve thrown it to you, it’s my online course, Intentional MoM Roadmap. With this course, I will pull you back into the boat and give you the relief that you deserve and that your children need you to have.
This is the work that I do. I give MoMs the resources that they need to stop drowning in their motherhood and put back in complete control of their motherhood journey. Just surviving isn’t an enjoyable way to live but in motherhood, it has become the norm. Not only is it not enjoyable but by living...
I have heard so many moms express that they feel that they are missing out on the bond that a mom feels with one baby because it’s just so overwhelming, exhausting, and stressful having two babies. I do NOT want this to be your experience, so today, I’m going to teach you how not to feel that you are missing out on a special bond that singleton moms get when having just one baby.
The most important thing that you need to understand is the amount of time you spend does not determine the bond between you and someone else. The association between time and bonding with someone is significant to understand. So often in our society, we feel that if we physically spend time with someone, that is what makes them, and us, feel loved, valued, heard, and appreciated; all of those emotions increase our connection with that person. So as a mom with two babies and the many unique challenges that go along with that, you will find your time being shared, and therefore our brain...
There is so much to unpack with this topic from financially funding multiple babies to logistically taking care of their needs. But today I’m going to talk about one of the most painful challenges that as a MoM, you will face as you raise those babies.
Whether it’s on social media or with my clients, moms want to understand more fully, “how can I love two babies equally?” There is so much worry and guilt internally going on during a pregnancy, and as you raise those babies, that involves multiples because it’s hard to comprehend how to love more than one baby and how to love them equally.
So today I’m going to give you the best news ever! This news will help you understand where love comes from and how it increases so that you don’t have to worry or feel guilty about the love towards your babies.
Society thinks that love comes from the time that we spend with individuals, the things that we do for people, or what they do for us, and...
When I was a new mom with infant twins, several things saved me from having a mental break down; a supportive husband, some occasional help from a neighbor, and the ability to call my mom to talk about my overwhelm. But the number one thing that saved my sanity was having a routine, and it was the only thing that I was 100% in control over. So even if those other things don’t exist in your motherhood, it ok because they are secondary in importance.
My routine helped me from getting mentally exhausted by trying to keep track of everything that needed to happen, it gave me the physical rest that I needed to rejuvenate myself to be able to take care of my kids, and the emotional boost necessary to take care of everyone, including myself.
I’m going to break down each of those benefits to having a routine so that you will be motivated to creating one for your family.
Creating a routine decreases mental exhaustion. Your brain likes to be told what to do and...
It is easy to look back throughout your day and focus on all of the things that went wrong. This is a very natural, human thing to do. But I want to let you know that those wrong moments were just right for you in your motherhood. Let me say that again. Those wrong moments were just right for you in your motherhood. You are doing motherhood exactly as you should be. You are doing motherhood right. Right for you, right for your children, right for everyone in your life. Nothing has gone wrong. You are LIVING life. Life comes with ups and downs.
Is motherhood challenging? Yes? That’s ok.
Is motherhood exhausting? Yes? That’s ok.
Is motherhood lonely? Yes? That’s ok.
Is motherhood unfulfilling? Yes? That’s ok.
Is motherhood overwhelming? Yes? That’s ok.
Saying yes to any of these things doesn’t make you less of an amazing mom. None of them means that you don’t love your children enough or that you are messing up their childhood. They are just...
One of the keys to my success in being a mom is learning how to stay positive when life is happening.
This list can go on and on with examples of life swirling around me and I know that you have a long list as well.
But think back to a situation that was really challenging. Something that you have now gone through and come out on the other side. What good did worrying, stressing, and being fearful do during that situation? Your brain wants to trick you into thinking that when you worry, stress and be fearful it helps you get through those hard times but those negative emotions actually block us from finding a solution. It’s not until...
Motherhood is hard, but just surviving is optional. These 3 simple things will make motherhood with multiples way easier on yourself. We don't become mothers so that we can feel overwhelmed, stressed, and inadequate all of the time. Implement these 3 simple things and you will feel confident in your motherhood. You can lay your head down each night, feeling successful. Let me make motherhood easier on you, mama, so that you can THRIVE.