Thriving in motherhood is possible

Honestly, it breaks my heart to know that one of the most magical, inspiring, and fulfilling times in our life is being survived through. It is normal for women to help other women survive motherhood. Now, I want to be clear. If you feel like you are surviving, I have been there too, THAT’S OK. Please hear me say that there is nothing wrong with you. You are doing motherhood in the best way that you know how, at this moment. And when you know a different way, you’ll do your motherhood differently, which is why I do what I do. My purpose in coaching is to give moms of multiples the tools, training, and tutoring that they need to thrive in their motherhood.

Here’s the truth, though, I am selfish because y’all, it’s the best job on the planet! To see a mom go from surviving to thriving, it’s incredible. But let’s dive into it so that you can understand how to possibly thrive in motherhood because right now, it doesn’t seem likely.

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When you want to change

There is a common misconception that many women believe. Today, I’m going to debunk this misconception and give you a different way to approach the situation.

Society thinks that if you want to change something in your life then you have to be upset, frustrated, or annoyed with yourself in order for you to be motivated to make the change. However, the opposite is true. 

Let me explain. Let’s say that I have a counter in my kitchen that I want to declutter and it’s been needing my attention for three weeks. The natural tendency is to say to myself, “seriously? You can’t even keep the kitchen tidy? This is kind of pathetic that you’ve let this pile stay here for so long. I mean, it’s not really that hard to put a few papers away.” But when I talk to myself this way I feel discouraged. And when I feel discouraged I want to eat a treat, jump on social media or turn on Netflix. All of which are not going to get me to clean the counter....

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Letter to a mother expecting multiples

mindset pregnancy self-love Sep 02, 2020

Dear mama of expecting multiples,

You are so lucky. Being pregnant with multiples is a magical time in your motherhood. I vividly remember four hands and four feet being pressed out of my belly at the same time. Oh, to experience that again would be an absolute joy, even though my pregnancy was no walk in the park. 

I want to give you the advice that I wish that I would have received when I first found out that I was pregnant with twins. I hope that you can take this advice and create the motherhood that you have always dreamed of creating. It doesn’t have to be like all of the blog posts that you’ve been reading.

You’ve got a lot on your mind as you grow these babies. My advice to you is to be very intentional about how you want to experience this time. Yes, the physical aspects of being pregnant are challenging, but we compound those physical challenges with unnecessary and unuseful mental chatter. Be kind and compassionate to yourself. 

Another thing...

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How to mentally prepare for multiples

I was recently asked how I responded when I was in the doctor’s office, and I was informed that I was carrying twins. To be completely honest. I cried. Uncontrollably. Tears of joy, overwhelm, gratitude, and uncertainty. And if you are reading this blog post, you might be able to relate. 

Today, I’m going to talk about what I wish someone, anyone, would have taught me while I was pregnant with my multiples. Everyone talks about how to prepare physically for twins.  What foods to eat, how to exercise, and to get as much sleep as possible now because you won’t get much once your babies are here. They talk about the baby gear and supplies to buy, what to buy two of, what are the must-haves versus the nice-to-haves, and what to take with you to the hospital. We talk a lot about how to physically care for the babies through breastfeeding and infant sleep classes. 

But a HUGE piece of what we are missing when we are preparing for our babies to arrive is...

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Feeling out of control?

It is easy to go through motherhood, feeling out of control, that these little humans you are caring for are running your life. I hear you; this is how I spent the early stages of my motherhood too. All that changed when I learned the way that I chose to think about what was happening outside of me was how I was going to experience it inside of me. In other words, my mindset about the situations in my motherhood determined the emotions that I was going to feel. Stay with me; I’ll explain using examples.

I told you that the early stages of my motherhood I spent feeling out of control. When my babies would cry, and I didn’t know what their needs were or have another pair of hands to help me, my response was to feel overwhelmed. I would think thoughts like “this is so exhausting,” and “they are nonstop, I’m never going to catch a break.” What I didn’t know back then was those thoughts are what was causing me to feel overwhelmed. Not the...

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MoMs want to be in control

As I have worked with moms of multiples to conquer the many challenges presented to them in their lives, there has been one underlying theme to every challenge. All us moms want to feel in control. 

My work is dedicated to showing you how to control every situation that comes at you in life. Common situations could include another failed round of IFV, an emergency C-section, or two crying babies with no help around. Or possibly, two rambunctious toddlers who are not listening, your over helpful mother-in-law (or unhelpful, I’ve seen both), or a husband that isn’t as helpful around the house as you would like for him to be. All of these, and anything else that you can think of, often leave us feeling out of control, but I’m here to guide you to have the ability to be in control during all of these situations. 

But to be in control, you have first to ask yourself why you want to be in control of these things. What would you get to feel if it worked out the...

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Coping with anxiety

Let’s bust through all of the myths and misconceptions about anxiety so that you don’t have to keep letting it control your motherhood. Many of my clients, and MoMs that I talk to, experience anxiety in their motherhood. They feel that anxiety is just a given, that it just happens to them, and they can’t do anything about it. Are you feeling the same way? Well, stay with me because this post is going to change your life.
Anxiety is an emotion. All of our emotions come from the thoughts that we think. Let me pause right here; when I say that, I’m not telling you just to think happy thoughts all of the time. Being happy all of the time is not how life is to be lived. Nor is it possible because you have a human brain that wasn’t designed that way. But that’s a topic for a different post.
I am saying that our thoughts create our emotions and that it is okay to feel every emotion that comes up in our motherhood. I tell you that so you can take ownership...

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Why you emotionally eat

emotional health mindset May 13, 2020

Emotionally eating is a topic to which I am very passionate. I have been an emotional eater and done the work to overcome escaping my emotions through the foods that I was reaching for. At 10 am, I would eat if I was bored or stressed, to either way food was going in my mouth mid-morning. At 3 pm, I would eat because I would start to feel anxious about my kids coming home from school. At 7 pm, I would eat for entertainment and to escape thinking anything negative about what might have happened that day. Eating these snacks/treats was on top of three full meals each day. No wonder I was carrying around extra weight.

I have ridden the rollercoaster of diet and exercise. Exercising 4-5 days a week for an hour and a half at the gym and restricting foods so that the weight would come off. Diet and exercise worked temporarily, but it always ended up that I was back to the weight that I started at or higher.

Two main things changed so that I could finally crack the code to how I needed to...

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I didn't sign up for this

I’m hearing this phrase a lot lately, “I didn’t sign up for this.” Have you been saying that in your own motherhood? Do you think that you didn’t sign up for being a NICU mom during a pandemic, or having to deal with toddlers that don’t understand the new normal of social distancing and are desiring outside attention from friends, cousins, and grandparents, or that you didn’t sign up to do homeschooling?

I too thought “I didn’t sign up for this” and it was causing me to feel frustrated, annoyed and at the effect of my life, like I didn’t have any control. Luckily, I quickly realized that this was a lie that my brain was telling me. Let me teach you how. Your brain doesn’t want you to put forth any extra effort. It likes to be extremely efficient. And all of what is happening in your motherhood right now is new and therefore is going to take a lot of effort. So it will lie to you in order to try to trick you into...

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Chaos coordinator truths

mindset motherhood Apr 29, 2020

These words are on mugs we use, the shirts, hats, and sweatshirts we wear, and on bumper stickers on our cars. As a society, it’s been ingrained in our heads that moms are chaos coordinators. Today, I’m going to offer a different perspective on these words and how they might be negatively impacting your motherhood that you might not realize.

Remember that these perspectives are optional and may not apply to you. Keep an open mind as you read. Try them on and see how it works in your motherhood. If you feel that these perspectives don’t apply to you and like being a chaos coordinator, keep it. That’s the beauty of being an adult, you get to choose, and no matter what you decide, it’s the perfect choice for your life. 

With that, let’s get to it. First, let’s define chaos. The Oxford dictionary defines chaos as “complete disorder and confusion.” I’m pretty sure that if I thought that that definition was going to be how...

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Let's make motherhood easier

Motherhood is hard, but just surviving is optional. These 3 simple things will make motherhood with multiples way easier on yourself. We don't become mothers so that we can feel overwhelmed, stressed, and inadequate all of the time. Implement these 3 simple things and you will feel confident in your motherhood. You can lay your head down each night, feeling successful. Let me make motherhood easier on you, mama, so that you can THRIVE.