This is a bittersweet announcement that I’m about to make. This is going to be my last blog post. Don’t worry; I’m not going anywhere. I’m still going to share with you the same amount of inspiration, motivation, encouragement, and love of motherhood with multiples each week, just in a different way. I’ll fill you in on the details at the end of this post, so keep reading.
This blog has a wealth of information that, if you read through the posts, learn, and implement what I’ve taught you, it will make all the difference in your motherhood. There are tons of free resources scattered throughout the posts, so dive in, your motherhood will be so very grateful.
However, I wanted to leave the blog, sharing something that I am very passionate about. Something that I believe is possible at any stage of motherhood with multiples. Something that, until now, us MoMs haven’t been taught how to do it or why we should strive for it.
I want to encourage...
Honestly, it breaks my heart to know that one of the most magical, inspiring, and fulfilling times in our life is being survived through. It is normal for women to help other women survive motherhood. Now, I want to be clear. If you feel like you are surviving, I have been there too, THAT’S OK. Please hear me say that there is nothing wrong with you. You are doing motherhood in the best way that you know how, at this moment. And when you know a different way, you’ll do your motherhood differently, which is why I do what I do. My purpose in coaching is to give moms of multiples the tools, training, and tutoring that they need to thrive in their motherhood.
Here’s the truth, though, I am selfish because y’all, it’s the best job on the planet! To see a mom go from surviving to thriving, it’s incredible. But let’s dive into it so that you can understand how to possibly thrive in motherhood because right now, it doesn’t seem likely.
If you are reading this post it is because you either have toddlers that you want some help understanding or you’re getting ready for the toddler phase and want to get as prepared as one can for the upcoming phase of life. Either way, what I am going to talk about is going to change how you view your toddlers and your role as their mother during this time of their life.
Society has labeled the two-year-old stage as terrible and the three-year-old stage as horrific. When we do this, we add a layer of intense emotion onto an already intense phase of life. Stop feeding into the lies that these are terrible and horrific stages of your toddler’s life. I promise that as you drop this line of thinking, it will automatically allow you to enjoy your toddlers a little bit more.
I mentioned that this is an intense time in your toddler’s life. It’s a time full of learning boundaries, how to get needs met, and what to do when life doesn’t go how you wish. Up...
There is a common misconception that many women believe. Today, I’m going to debunk this misconception and give you a different way to approach the situation.
Society thinks that if you want to change something in your life then you have to be upset, frustrated, or annoyed with yourself in order for you to be motivated to make the change. However, the opposite is true.
Let me explain. Let’s say that I have a counter in my kitchen that I want to declutter and it’s been needing my attention for three weeks. The natural tendency is to say to myself, “seriously? You can’t even keep the kitchen tidy? This is kind of pathetic that you’ve let this pile stay here for so long. I mean, it’s not really that hard to put a few papers away.” But when I talk to myself this way I feel discouraged. And when I feel discouraged I want to eat a treat, jump on social media or turn on Netflix. All of which are not going to get me to clean the counter....
Dear mama of expecting multiples,
You are so lucky. Being pregnant with multiples is a magical time in your motherhood. I vividly remember four hands and four feet being pressed out of my belly at the same time. Oh, to experience that again would be an absolute joy, even though my pregnancy was no walk in the park.
I want to give you the advice that I wish that I would have received when I first found out that I was pregnant with twins. I hope that you can take this advice and create the motherhood that you have always dreamed of creating. It doesn’t have to be like all of the blog posts that you’ve been reading.
You’ve got a lot on your mind as you grow these babies. My advice to you is to be very intentional about how you want to experience this time. Yes, the physical aspects of being pregnant are challenging, but we compound those physical challenges with unnecessary and unuseful mental chatter. Be kind and compassionate to yourself.
I was recently asked how I responded when I was in the doctor’s office, and I was informed that I was carrying twins. To be completely honest. I cried. Uncontrollably. Tears of joy, overwhelm, gratitude, and uncertainty. And if you are reading this blog post, you might be able to relate.
Today, I’m going to talk about what I wish someone, anyone, would have taught me while I was pregnant with my multiples. Everyone talks about how to prepare physically for twins. What foods to eat, how to exercise, and to get as much sleep as possible now because you won’t get much once your babies are here. They talk about the baby gear and supplies to buy, what to buy two of, what are the must-haves versus the nice-to-haves, and what to take with you to the hospital. We talk a lot about how to physically care for the babies through breastfeeding and infant sleep classes.
But a HUGE piece of what we are missing when we are preparing for our babies to arrive is...
I want to start this post by saying that this can be a sensitive subject for many MoMs, and that’s precisely why I am going to speak my truth about it. This subject is close to my heart because I am a NICU mom, and I see so many NICU moms going through unnecessary suffering while their babies are being cared for in the NICU. So hear me out and then be intentional with your NICU story and what you want to continue telling yourself about your experience, or what you will choose to say to yourself if a NICU stay is in your future. I’ll let you know how to do this at the end of this post, so keep reading.
The way that you think of your NICU stay is how you are going to feel about NICU. This is NOT me saying that you just have to think positively about your kiddos being in the NICU, not at all. But I will caution you to be very intentional because many moms paint a horrible scene when it comes to their NICU stay.
For instance, I have been told by a mom that the NICU is like...
You know how much you are doing as a new mom of twins and I know how much you are doing. That’s why I hear you saying, “really Andra? Self-care too?” My answer to this is yes, but I’ve got you. This is self-care simplified, MoM infant style.
I’m going to spare you the explanation as to why you really do need to be doing some form of self-care each day. I’ve got tons of blog posts on the topic so if you are interested just look to the sidebar on this page, scroll until you find the “categories” section and go to the “self-care” link and it will give you all of the blog posts that I have written on the topic. Click here to go to one of my favorites if you want an empowering way to think about self-care.
But for the purposes of this post, I’m just going to jump right in and give you 3 things that you can do as self-care that don’t take up any extra time out of your day.
1- Give yourself a wink. You read that...
Congratulations mama! You’re pregnant with multiples! Let me start off by saying that being a mom of multiples is the best and if you follow this checklist you will be sure to make it an unforgettable experience. (Which is perfect because one of the top complaints from MoMs is that the first 2 years are a blur.)
I’m going to get right down to what you need to get ready for twins, however, my list is going to be VERY different than other MoMs advice. What I am going to help you get ready for, the perfect diaper bag won’t create for you, what to pack and not to pack for the hospital won’t create for you, and how many cribs to purchase won’t create for you.
Because what you want is to fully enjoy those babies instead of being overwhelmed and stressed. What you want is to take care of their needs without being overly exhausted so that you can relish in the little moments as they grow. What you want is to feel like you are doing a good job as a...
Congratulations mama! You’re pregnant with multiples! Let me start by saying that being a mom of multiples is the best, and if you follow this checklist, you will be sure to make it an unforgettable experience. (Which is perfect because one of the top complaints from MoMs is that the first two years are a blur.)
I’m going to get right down to what you need to get ready for twins; however, my list is going to be VERY different than other MoMs advice. What I am going to help you get prepared for, the perfect diaper bag won’t create for you, what to pack and not to pack for the hospital won’t create for you, and how many cribs to purchase won’t create for you.
Because what you want is to fully enjoy those babies instead of being overwhelmed and stressed. What you want is to take care of their needs without being overly exhausted so that you can relish in the little moments as they grow. What you want is to feel like you are a good mom, that you...
Motherhood is hard, but just surviving is optional. These 3 simple things will make motherhood with multiples way easier on yourself. We don't become mothers so that we can feel overwhelmed, stressed, and inadequate all of the time. Implement these 3 simple things and you will feel confident in your motherhood. You can lay your head down each night, feeling successful. Let me make motherhood easier on you, mama, so that you can THRIVE.